Monday, January 04, 2021

Best Books in 2020

I started the reading year strong, but slowed way down when my little library closed.  Gratefully, I was still able find some new favorites. 
There are a lot of Beauty and the Beast retellings, but this one was adorable. 
This book inspired our biggest 2020 adventure. We bought a ski boat and we had the most idyllic summer. It was the perfect place for our family to spend our forced COVID time together. There were a lot of arguments and frustrations, but there was so much more teamwork and comradery.
Loved these two books by Rainbow Rowell!  Attachments was my favorite, but Landline was so thought provoking for me. 
This book has helped me so much. Even recently, I was reminded of her teachings. Some family members were pressuring me to make a decision, but I didn’t have all the information. So I told them to wait, I would make my decision in a couple of days when the unknowns were solved. And it worked perfectly, I didn’t have to spend those days worried that I had picked wrong and there was still plenty of time to make the arrangements needed for what my decision ended being. 


Monday, December 31, 2018

8 Things that Worked for Me in 2018


I have gotten so many useful things from people sharing on Facebook, Instagram, and blogs over the years that I wanted to do a bit of sharing myself.  A blog that I recently discovered is Everyday Reading, and Janssen, the author, shared 5 things that worked for her in 2018 and it got me to thinking about the good things I had implemented in the year that have helped me.  While I love new years resolutions, none of these habbits started on Jan 1.  They each came to be through need and looking for solutions.  Can't wait to see what I will add/or eliminate in 2019.  I'll be looking for inspitation so keep on sharing.




1.  Waking Up Early.  This spring I had the oportunity to substitute teach our church''s early morning youth seminary class.  It began at 6 in the morning.  I have always wanted to wake up before my kids my entire motherhood, but I never was able to create that habit.  Three months of early morning teaching cured that.  Now that I am not teaching, I use that time to work out, read my own scriptures, or read with my son(who has always been an early riser).

2.  Going to Bed Early.  Another great habbit that came from teaching seminary.  With my extended schedule I made the selfish decision to make everyone in the house go to bed early so that I could.  BEST THING EVER!  My boys are natural early risers, no matter when they go down, but having them go down early has made for some much more enjoyable evenings.  7:30 for the littles at the start of school, and when the time changed this fall, I didn't let their time fall back, so they are starting to bed at 6:30 this winter. Which I absolutely love.  I hate those long dark winter evenings. And the rest of us are in bed by 8:00.

3.  Listening to Scriptures, Audio Books, and Podcasts during the day.  As you can guess, being a mom of 6 doesn't leave a lot of time to sit on my duff and read, but there is a ton of time everyday that I can be listening to things.  I feel that this year has been a big year of self reflection and learning and the sources I was able to find to listen to helped me tremendously.  I know being able to listen to those seminary lessons were a huge lifesaver to me while I was teaching.  I don't know how I would have been able to prepare otherwise.  Below is a list of the things I loved listening too.  We also rediscovered listening to audiobooks with the kids.

4. Reading to Cayden in the morning.  My 9 year old has always struggled with reading and he was recently diagnosed with ADHD.  After school homework time was always tortuous for him and I.  But we realized that he is at the top of his game in the mornings.  Plus there are no other distractions, just he and I and the Dairy of the Wimpy Kid.  I loved that we found a time for us to spend together, getting better at something, and having fun. And now there is less homework to do at homework time and he can spend more time outside doing those crazy things that make him Cayden.

5.  Getting Help With My House.  Every Monday, I have a dear friend comes over and helps me get my house back together after the weekend.  All the bathrooms, the floors, the laundry, and the bedding are all fresh and clean for the new week.  When it was just me it would take me until Thursday each week to get that all done, or more likely it wouldn't all get done.  The day is also free for appointments as I can leave my youngest with Marcia if I need to run to doctor, orthodontist, or vet. I often use Mondays to mow the lawn too.  Those are my favorite Mondays because(1. I've gotten to spend time outside(2. the whole place is looking great.  I feel so increadible blessed that I am able to have this help.

6.  Breakfast Dishes Done before Leaving  On a typical day, I am not home a whole lot.  From school drop off to when they return, I have only popped in and out a couple of times, so if those breakfast dishes weren't done before I left for the day, it can be pretty disheartening to see them at three in the afternoon still waiting for me.  It also seems disrespectful because I have such a brand new beautiful kitchen that doesn't deserve to be treated like that.  We've had to adjust our morning routine a bit, but now there is time to get the kitchen all clean before we leave for school.

7.  Using the EveryDollar App for Budgeting.  Adam and I are Dave Ramsey fans.  We trudged through our own journey of breaking free of debt with Student Loans, Vehicle Loans, and credit cards over ten years ago using his steps in Total Money Makeover.  It was amazing!  But lately we have become lax in where our money is going.  Our church offers a Personal Finance class that Adam and I took and we became recommited to managing our money.  Tracking our expenses that first month was eye opening.  We watched how our money was trickeling away at everyday little things.  We now have definite goals for our money.  We had a Christmas budget, saving for vacation is planned, and long term savings is happening without fail.  We have a place for Every Dollar to go.  And it is serving us now, because we work too hard for it to waste it.

8.  Went to a Dermatologist.  I don't know why, but this is the year that I finally realized that my adult acne was not going to go away without some perfessional help.  I had tried so many products over the years thinking this next one is the winner, or maybe I needed to be more vigilant with following the routines, or I just haven't found the right combination for my skin, or if I just ate a better diet these blemishes wouldn't keep appearing.  It only took six months of antibotics and a topical cream to give me the face I have always hoped was under there.  Why or why did I not go sooner?

Here is a list of the Books/Podcast/Instagrams that I loved in 2018

Self Help/Parenting




Boundaries by Dr Heny Cloud and Dr John Townsend When to say yes and when to say no.  I love that they use scriptures and biblical teachings to convince us "christians" that being pulled in unwise directions does not make us happy.  We can be more happy when we use our power to say no or yes. 

Better Than Before: Mastering the Habbits of our Everyday Life by Gretchen Ruben  I liked Ruben's classification of personality types;  Rebel, Questioner, Obliger, and Upholder. I understand how I and others respond to expectations now and how to manage myself better and what I need to make habits stick.

The Happiness Project by Gretchen Ruben  Another by Ruben that I spoke to me.  Don't be suprised if I start my own happiness project.  

The 7 Habbits of Highly Effective People by Steven R Covey  Adam has tried to get me to read this for years and I'm glad I finally did.  This is a book that I will need to reread often to put into practice.

Ignore It! by Catherine Pearlman  We have a few whinners in the family, one is much louder and better at it than rest.  I tell people he is the one who broke me.  I am able to stand up to most of my children's demands, but Seth has the whine, scream, throw a fit dance down.  I'll do almost anything to make it stop.  But Catherine has shown me that I do have power and that power is to Ignore It.  I have listened to this book probably three times this year to keep up my stamina to his assaults, and I know it is working.  I even got Adam to listen to it.

Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies by Rachel Hollis  I love a good girl power uplifter and Rachel is one.  She is so spunky.  The audiobook is in her own voice so thats fun to hear her enthusiasm.  

Man's Search for Meaning by Victor E Frankl Here is the Amazon description- Psychiatrist Viktor Frankl's memoir has riveted generations of readers with its descriptions of life in Nazi death camps and its lessons for spiritual survival. Between 1942 and 1945 Frankl labored in four different camps, including Auschwitz, while his parents, brother, and pregnant wife perished. Based on his own experience and the experiences of others he treated later in his practice, Frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose.

HIs book is touching not only for his experience, but his discovery that there is something in each of us that cannot be taken away.  And we must protect that part of us with our integrity. 

Classics




The Old Man in the Sea by Ernest Hemingway  There may have been some gaps in my high school reading requirements and I'm trying to it up by reading a few classics when I get the notion.  If you missed this one is all about grit.

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho  This is another book that should be read many times in a lifetime.  

The Jungle Book by Rudyard Kipling   This was my favorite book to listen to while I ran.  Very wise are those jungle animals, and very stupid are we humans.

Read with My Kids




Brave Irene by Willian Steig  Another story of a determined brave little girl.  These are my favorite.

The Boxcar Children By Gertrude Chandler Warner Its round number 2 with these classic childrens books.  With how much my older girls loved these books, I have such fun reintroducing them to my younger kids.  Gertrude grew up in Putnam, CT and I've taken my kids to her museum.  There is a real boxcar decked out with chiped cups and broken dishes and sillouette drawings she made of her students as she taught there all of her life.

The Indian and the Cupboard by Lynne Reid Banks  We started listening to audiobooks on out 15 minute drives to school each day to cut down on the arguing and anoying sounds of the brothers.  This one grabbed there attention each day.  

Harry Potter and the Socerer's Stone by JK Rowling My older girls have read the series a couple of times each, but I was thrilled when Seth brought up our illustrated copy and asked to read it.  I downloaded the audiobook and we follow along as we listen before bed. 

Podcast



Dave Ramsey  I love listening to Dave give advice to callers.  I try to guess what he'll say to them.  When I can give all the right advice I know I'll be a true Ramsey fan.  I heard him recommend the book Boundaries which I have listed above to a woman who was feeling guilty about not wanting to help her adult children out with thier finances.  

Happier with Gretchen Ruben  Obviously I'm obsessed with Gretchen, but here is her podcast that she cohosts with her sister.  

Revisionist History- Malcolm Gladwell  I haven't read any of his books yet, but I love his podcasts casting light on things misunderstood.  He is a great story teller.  

Young House Love  This couple is too funny.  They are home diy-ers and decorators.  They are remodeling a beach house and take you through the process.  I love thier style.  I even dig her style of dress.  She calls her minimalist wardrobe a uniform.  She knows what she likes and sticks with it.

Circle Round  and Stories Podcast-  Both post fun short children stories weekly.  Great to listen to in the car or before bed.






Friday, March 20, 2015

Kitchen and House Got Some Lovin this Winter

When we bought our home ten years ago, it was a mansion to us.  We were a small family then with one little toddler and a brand new baby.  Our previous rentals had never been larger than 900 square feet.  This house had a garage, three bedrooms, three baths, a basement playroom, and room for a home office.  Our dream house.

But as the years past and our family grew and grew, things started to get a little tight.  The office/ workout room was converted to the big girls bedroom, shelving went up in the garage, multiple sets of bunk beds were purchased, and our little kitchen kept feeling smaller and smaller and more and more used and abused.

It took Adam and I years to formulate a plan on how to improve this space.  We kept going back and forth on trying to do a "mini" makeover with replacing counter tops and painting cabinets verses the whole project, but there were way too many things that I needed changed.  I am so grateful that we were able to do this project. I am so grateful that my husband saw that this was important to me.  He convinced me that my workspace was worth being nice.  New kitchens cost so much money.  It is kinda sickening, but it is so beautiful now.


Here are our Before pics.

The new kitchen follows this setup, but with a new gas cook top and fan in place of the electric stove/oven combo and microwave.

With such little space in the kitchen this little bumpout was about the only available space for prep, but the cabinet underneath it was a complete waste of space.  It was a dead corner.  We nixed it in hopes of having more efficient cabinet space.

My fridge was positioned so awkwardly against that wall and the tiny counter space couldn't hold much.  Here is where I kept my mixer, but to use it, I always had a job of clearing everything else off the counter to get to it.  My new kitchen has this entire space dedicated to baking.

The biggest secret to finally coming up with a solution for the kitchen was to come to terms with the big job of moving the washer and dryer downstairs.  I had to give up a storage closet downstairs, but I gained so much room in my kitchen from removing them, and our mudroom where the we moved the washer and dryer turned out stupendous.

In the living room two bookshelf units will flank the bay window- always looking to add more storage.

I pleaded with Adam to put in new wide white trim to replace the beaten up stuff through out the house.  It was a big big job.  Way more work than I imagined, because once you pull off the trim to a room, it's a perfect time to clear out the room, repair the walls, paint ceilings and paint walls.  We ended up painting every room in the entire upper floor.

We also replaced all the worn out yellowed outlets and light switches with new white ones and replaced all of the baseboard heaters.  Another project I convinced my husband to do was to dress up our doors with a border of trim and new paint.  He and his new paint sprayer set up shop in both my garage and his warehouse.  He doesn't have a pair of pants left now that isn't spattered with white paint.

We continued the hardwood from the living room into the dinning room and kitchen and I don't have to have my big pretty table pushed up against the wall anymore because it was too big for the space.


In Progress:

Thanksgiving weekend is when we started this massive hullaballoo with the mudroom and a new storage closet in the basement.  After a month of late nights, never-ending trips to Lowes, me getting not enough sleep and getting sick twice, all on top of Christmas season and prep we finished right before Santa Clause came.

Out with the old closet and in with the washer dryer water and electric hookups.

Then I got a little design-ie and wanted the walls planked.  I follow my friend's ultra talented wife Niki Grandy on Grand Design Co. and this is the sort of stuff she makes look awesome all the time.
You can follow her on Instagram too.



Washer, dryer, planked walls, counter top, and shelving, and new beefy white trim.

Meanwhile on the other side of the mudroom...
I found a set of lockers on craigslist and the Coverstar guys Wayne, Wayne, and Justine took some time out of their day helped me get them ready to paint and we took them to an auto body shop and they turned them this awesome color.

Can I tell you how much I love, love these lockers.  There are ten of them.  Each kid gets two.  One for their school stuff and one for their seasonal gear.  Right now they are full of snow boots, pants, coats and gloves.  In the spring, ball mitts and helmets.  In the summer flip flops and goggles.  Ohh I love them.









 And here is the new storage closet built to replace the one given up for the washer and dryer space.  It was like a giant puzzle moving things around in the house.  Only moving walls and closets isn't a bit easy.

Ohh, did you notice the door makeover?
The tutorials are all over pinterest.



And we rested.
Until the second week of January.
Then we tore out the kitchen.



Here all the prep is almost done.  Bulkheads removed, new lighting, new wiring for under cabinet lighting, new gas line, new water line, and patched ceiling.  Gosh, I'm glad for the help from Wayne, Justin, Kurmith, and Bob. Things went so much faster with their help. 

New paint and new floors.
It was like a giant bowling alley in there.  We had a bunch of sock dance parties while we waited for the cabinets to come. Our friend Allen Phafflin and his partner Mark from A&M Construction(a local business) did a great job putting up the cabinets and all the crown molding and living room trim. They were so meticulous. 






Room for a microwave/oven combo and a refrigerator where the washer/dryer used to be.



So much mess, so many helpers.


 Add counters, back splash tile(a bigger job then it should be), under cabinet lighting, and the kitchen is done.  It feels so big and bright in there now, nothing like before.  We are so blessed.

A reminder: Old Kitchen

New Kitchen:




(On the to do list is to have the cabinet builder fill in the gap above the fridge with a filler panel.  That will clean it up nicely.)


The counter on the far right is now my baking station and it is ready to roll.  All my ingredients are at hands grasp and the Kitchen Aid is ready to mix at all times.


New bright doors and hallway.


Still working on the other side of the living room:)